Magical word – Sorry!

It’s never too late to say sorry to anyone…

The world is continuing to witness so many conflicts!

The relationship may have ended decades ago but that does not mean you cannot apologize.

It’s never too late to apologize. Simply because many years have passed since the deed that did the damage doesn’t mean you shouldn’t bother.

A long overdue apology doesn’t indicate you want anything from the person in return. It doesn’t mean there’s a hidden agenda, you’re still in love with them or hoping to rekindle a romance. Neither does it mean you can undo all the hurt you caused.

Intense relationship letdowns can leave invisible scars that last a lifetime. You pick yourself up, put the hurt in a box and try your hardest to move on. As time passes, it becomes easier but betrayal shapes you.

If someone really breaks your heart, it shatters into a million pieces and you’re never quite the same again. Not all the apologies in the world can undo that – if only they could.

Unfortunately, the harsh reality is people make mistakes. They fall in lust with people they should not, betray people they once adored, tear down fairytale futures that have been jointly planned, and cause many shades of pain. Sometimes messy breakups can really change how you see yourself and hearing an apology can dismiss nagging doubts that are the hideous lingering hangover.

It’s vitally important to take responsibility for causing heartbreak in life.

In fact, several exes have wronged me in different ways and it would mean a great deal to me if they put their hand up and peacefully nodded to close that chapter. Why? It’s the right thing to do.

I’ve often sat and reflected, wondering how on earth some people sleep at night; they show no flicker or remorse and appear to have blissfully moved on. Baffling.

Sometimes it can take years of a turbulent emotional journey for people to recognize, accept and take full responsibility for wrongdoing. Ego often hinders knocking on someone’s inbox cap in hand.

But, when guilt finally catches up with you, or you find yourself in the headspace to wave a white flag, you should.

It’s often said that if years have passed you should keep an apology to yourself and live with it. What a depressing suggestion!

A genuine, heartfelt apology with purely good intentions is always important. It is never too late to try to make something right.

A heartfelt apology…

IS – sincere acknowledgement you did wrong to another human being.

IS NOT – an invitation to harp on about your own suffering.

IS – assuming the damage you caused was a big deal.

IS NOT – half-hearted, lightened with jokes or avoiding eye contact.

DO – Stick to what you actually did. Be clear about what you’re apologizing for.

DON’T – expect to be forgiven. This isn’t about easing your own guilt.

DO – Really, mean it.

DON’T – let your actions afterwards prove you haven’t learnt your lesson.

DOESN’T – mean you are wrong.

IS – You value the person more than being right.

Transform the EGO into Humanity! You can’t make a better place for others when you have so much of hatred and guilt within!

When a person says sorry when he is wrong – It’s called Honest

When a person says sorry when he is not sure – It’s called Wise

When a person says sorry even when he is right – Is called Husband 😛

It’s the little things in life, which makes big differences.

Your life is worth living; do not just spend it in surviving!

Sourced from bodyandsoul.com.au | Author:  Corrine Barraclough

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Three Love of Life!

It’s been said that in real we only fall in love with three people in our lifetime.

Yet, it’s also believed that we need each of these loves for a different reason.

Often our first is when we are young, in high school even. It’s the idealistic love—the one that seems like the fairytales we read as children.

This is the love that appeals to what we should be doing for society’s sake—and probably our families. We enter into it with the belief that this will be our only love and it doesn’t matter if it doesn’t feel quite right, or if we find ourselves having to swallow down our personal truths to make it work because deep down we believe that this is what love is supposed to be.

Because in this type of love, how others view us is more important than how we actually feel.

It’s a love that looks right.

The second is supposed to be our hard love—the one that teaches us lessons about who we are and how we often want or need to be loved. This is the kind of love that hurts, whether through lies, pain or manipulation.

We think we are making different choices than our first, but in reality we are still making choices out of the need to learn lessons—but we hang on. Our second love can become a cycle, oftentimes one we keep repeating because we think that somehow the ending will be different than before. Yet, each time we try, it somehow ends worse than before.

Sometimes it’s unhealthy, unbalanced or narcissistic even. There may be emotional, mental or even physical abuse or manipulation—most likely there will be high levels of drama. This is exactly what keeps us addicted to this storyline, because it’s the emotional rollercoaster of extreme highs and lows and like a junkie trying to get a fix, we stick through the lows with the expectation of the high.

With this kind of love, trying to make it work becomes more important than whether it actually should.

It’s the love that we wished was right.

And the third is the love we never see coming. The one that usually looks all wrong for us and that destroys any lingering ideals we clung to about what love is supposed to be. This is the love that comes so easy it doesn’t seem possible. It’s the kind where the connection can’t be explained and knocks us off our feet because we never planned for it.

This is the love where we come together with someone and it just fits—there aren’t any ideal expectations about how each person should be acting, nor is there pressure to become someone other than we are.

We are just simply accepted for who we are already—and it shakes to our core.

Maybe we don’t all experience these loves in this lifetime, but perhaps that’s just because we aren’t ready to. Maybe the reality is we need to truly learn what love isn’t before we can grasp what it is.

And then there may be those people who fall in love once and find it passionately lasts until their last breath. Those faded and worn pictures of our grandparents who seemed just as in love as they walked hand-in-hand at age 80 as they did in their wedding picture—the kind that leaves us wondering if we really know how to love at all.

Just because it has never worked out before doesn’t mean that it won’t work out now.

What it really comes down to is if we are limited by how we love, or instead love without limits. We can all choose to stay with our first love, the one that looks good and will make everyone else happy. We can choose to stay with our second under the belief that if we don’t have to fight for it, then it’s not worth having—or we can make the choice to believe in the third love.

And it’s that possibility that makes trying again always worthwhile, because the truth is you never know when you’ll stumble into love.

“You found parts of me I didn’t know existed and in you I found a love I no longer believed was real.” ~ Unknown

By Kate Rose

Source: Elephant Journal via Mystical Raven

Why I Love Travelling Alone!

I love international airports. I love the sub-audible hum of strip lighting and the floor-to-ceiling views of planes coming and going, and the airbrushed promise of Hollywood stars hawking designer perfumes and handbags. I love that everyone in an international departure lounge is suspended between two worlds. And I love being one of them, anonymous and alone.

When I travel alone, I’m letting go of the external buttresses that hold my life together. It’s not just the job, the housework and the weekly classes, but the friends and loved ones who give my everyday its specific colour and shape. Without the clutter and comfort of familiar voices, I can see the world more clearly.

Travelling alone is not for the faint-hearted. If you need endless streaming conversation or a buddy at your side when you walk into an unfamiliar bar, if you have trouble making decisions or finding your way, it might not be for you. But if you want to experience real freedom, there’s only one way to find it. Here are five reasons I love travelling alone.


#1 There’s only one vote

There’s no need to negotiate, be considerate or compromise when you travel by yourself. The rhythms of each day revolve around your inner clock; there’s no one waiting on you to eat, sleep, shower or make a decision. You go or stay wherever your heart takes you.

I fell asleep in an orchard in the south of France once and dreamt about Van Gogh, and woke up half certain I had travelled back in time. On a beach in Thailand, on a whim, I spent a long afternoon reading A True History of the Kelly Gang while a local guy tattooed a large fish on my back. I’ve blown off flights to check out a volcano and driven 400 miles to eat a grilled cheese sandwich, just because I felt like it. It’s nice not having to answer to anyone else.


#2 I got this. I got everything.

I’m an expert at maps. I know this because I’ve driven across Missouri in a thunderstorm with a malfunctioning GPS. I’ve stepped off a long-haul flight and into a rental car and proceeded to drive on the wrong (right) side of the road in new zealand. And I love, like to do stuff which makes my blood run faster, hugging the nature with wide open arms bungee jumping in new zealand.

Travelling alone forces you to be self-reliant and to figure things out, because there’s literally no one else to do it for you. You become a Google monster and a master organiser, and it gives you a quiet little thrill of accomplishment. It’s nice to know you can take care of yourself.


#3 A little bit of hush goes a long way

It’s amazing what you see and hear when you’re not making conversation. Travelling with friends and partners is awesome in its own way, but when you’re alone your senses are neon lit and you take in so much more of the world around you. You eavesdrop on conversations in the local language, you meditate on details in the landscape and you take the time to sink in to the feeling of a place. If you stand long enough and quietly enough in the middle of a volcanic plain in Iceland, for example, you can almost hear the rocks whispering to you. Sounds ridiculous, I know, but you should try it.


#4 Stronger, better, more confident at dance parties

Do you squirm at the idea of eating dinner alone? Could you walk into a gig in a foreign city and sip a beer by yourself until the band hits the stage? For sure, the hardest part of travelling alone is going out at night, especially if you’re shy, but you build up resilience over time. I’m at the point now where all-night raves in Barcelona don’t faze me, I just turn up and dance. I’ve sat through degustation meals at Michelin-starred Italian restaurants, reading my book or scrolling Instagram between courses, feeling happy in my own skin. It might be hard work at first, but travelling alone pushes you out of your comfort zone and into the world. And the world really isn’t that scary.


#5 Being alone makes you less alone in the world

Still, sometimes, it’s nice to talk. It’s nice to meet new people when you travel, especially locals, and it’s much harder to meet people when you’re a couple. When my boyfriend and I travel together, we’re a locked-up little unit, content in our bubble of intimacy and in-jokes. When I travel alone, I’m more open to seeing where a conversation will go. I’m more open – period – out of necessity as much as anything else.

Some of it is fleeting – a chat on a park bench in New York, a drink with a guy who sold me jeans in Amsterdam – but sometimes it sticks. My Canadian friend Sarah fell in beside me on a walking tour in London; my mate Coco posted me a record and some chocolate after I gave her a lift out of Keflavik Airport. I have a network of friends around the world that I’ve met while travelling solo. This, if nothing else, is a great reason to go it alone.

Go on, take the plunge. Start planning your solo adventure!

Source : http://awol.junkee.com/

Sorry.Thanks & I Love You!

Never delay in expressing these 3 feelings no matter whatever stops you, your family, Ego, Proud…

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The day I decided to quit!

It was one seemingly ordinary day when I decided to QUIT… All of a sudden I made a decision to quit my job, my relationship and finally my spirituality. I just wanted to quit my life.

But before that, I went to the wood to have one last talk with God.

I started: “God, can you give me one good reason not to quit?”

His answer really surprised me: “Look around”, He said. “Do you see the fern and the bamboo?”

I replied: “Yes. When I planted the fern and the bamboo seeds, I took very good care of them. I gave them light. I gave them water. The fern quickly grew from the earth.

Its brilliant green covered the floor.Yet nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo. In the second year the Fern grew more vibrant and plentiful.

But still, nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo.

He said: “In year three there was still nothing from the bamboo seed.But I would not quit. In year four, again, there was nothing from the bamboo seed. I would not quit.”

“Then in the fifth year a tiny sprout emerged from the earth. Compared to the fern it was seemingly small and insignificant…But just 6 months later the bamboo rose to over 100 feet tall.

It had spent the five years growing roots. Those roots made it strong and gave it what it needed to survive.I would not give any of my creations a challenge it could not handle.”

After that, He asked me: “Did you know, my child, that all this time you have been struggling, you have actually been growing roots. I would not quit on the bamboo.I will never quit on you.”

“Don’t compare yourself to others.” He added. ”The bamboo had a different Purpose than the fern. Yet they both make the forest beautiful.” God said to me: “Your time will come”

“You will rise high”.

I asked: “How high should I rise?”

“How high will the bamboo rise?” He also asked.

I was confused: “As high as it can?”

”Yes.” He said, “Give Me glory by rising as high as you can.”

After this conversation I left the forest and I wrote this amazing story. I really hope that these words can help you to see that God will never give up on you.

You should Never, Never, Never, Give up.

Don’t tell the Lord how big the problem is, tell the problem how Great the Lord is!

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Before You Say ‘I Love You’

SAYING “I LOVE YOU,” IN A RELATIONSHIP FOR THE FIRST TIME IS NOT SOMETHING TO TAKE LIGHTLY. WHEN YOU’RE IN A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP, AND HAVE ACTUALLY TAKEN THE TIME TO EXAMINE YOUR OWN FEELINGS, YOU MAY FEEL LIKE IT’S THE RIGHT TIME TO SAY IT.

When it is the right time, it can take a serious relationship to its fullest potential. When it’s not the right time, it can cause numerous issues between you and your partner. But when is it the right time? How do you know for sure?

If you feel like it should be time, take a look at these six questions and answer them honestly.

YOUR ANSWERS TO THESE QUESTIONS WILL HELP YOU DETERMINE WHETHER OR NOT IT’S TIME TO DROP THOSE THREE IMPORTANT WORDS, OR IF YOUR RELATIONSHIP NEEDS MORE DEVELOPMENT.

1. DO YOU KEEP SECRETS?

This may seem like a juvenile question to ask when considering your feelings of love, but it’s nonetheless important. A couple in love keeps no secrets from each other; they are open books that wish to be read by their significant others. If you’re keeping secrets from your partner, it may not be time to profess your love.

2. DO YOU EXPECT PERFECTION?

When you’re truly in love with someone, you love their flaws, not just the characteristics that work well. Love begins with acceptance and it’s important to understand that no relationship, or person for that matter, is perfect. Loving relationships come with ups and downs, and you have to be willing to accept every aspect of your partner, and the relationship itself.

3. ARE YOU FRIENDS?

You can’t have a working romantic relationship if you don’t feel like you’re friends with your partner. Friends laugh with each other, they share common interests, they work through problems together, and most importantly, they support one another. Friendships and romantic relationships are very similar, and a romantic relationship that has a friendly foundation has support.

4. DO YOU FEEL JEALOUS OR NEEDY?

Trust is essential, and it must be a part of your relationship before you say, “I love you.” If you feel needy when your partner is out on his or her own, or you feel jealous when they are with someone else, you probably need to hold off on saying it. Learn to trust your partner, otherwise you can’t possibly love them the way you want.

5. IS IT ONLY PHYSICAL?

Physical chemistry is important for a working, romantic relationship. However, it can’t be the only thing the relationship is about. A relationship built on sex only leads to boredom and the next best thing; it takes something more to have a truly loving relationship with your partner.

6. HAVE YOU LEARNED FROM THE PAST?

Past relationships can teach us a great deal when it comes to the present. After a relationship ends, you should take the time to examine yourself, your partner, why things ended the way they did, and how it can be fixed. If you haven’t learned anything important from your past relationships, what are you really offering the person you’re about to confess your love to? If you really love them, examine yourself and what you can offer.

Good Reads!

The day I decided to quit! 

Why Modern Relationships Are Falling Apart So Easily Today! 

She’s a high-quality woman!

Before You Say ‘I Love You’

Why I Love Travelling Alone!

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